WHY SOME MEN DO NOT ENJOY SEX

The reason why some men do not want to have sex is that they no longer enjoy sex. And they no longer enjoy sex because they do not have erection any longer.

Although it is not everyone who agrees with this notion, there are salient issues being raised by the medical expert on why this is so with men.

NAIJ.com’s Esther Odili spoke with Dr Taiwo Fadeyi, a sex therapist, who shared the reasons many men do no enjoy having intercourse with their spouses.

1. Hormonal imbalances
The most important stimulant of sexual desire is testosterone. Many men are mistakenly sent to have a blood test for total testosterone when low libido is the issue.

Men who do not enjoy sex at all already have a problem of testosterone, a hormone that is responsible for erection. Moreover, these type of men in their youths does not have anything to do with sex and they are referred to as the Eunuchs.

However, they are not the same as homosexuals. Homosexuals enjoy sex with the same sex. It is not that they do not have sex.

2. Turn off from sex
Some men get bored with sex that is not fulfilling to them and they turn off from sexual activity. This can be related to specific things that his partner does during sexual intercourse. This type of men feel criticized or may have sexual interest that he knows or fears his partner may not share.

3. Disagreement with spouse
This has to do with some women. A woman could become a nag. When a man has a nagging wife who becomes a terror at home, the husband would rather not have sex with her. If he has to beg her for sex or the woman uses sex as a weapon to punish him, then his interest will be lost completely.

According to Dr Fadeyi, we have to differentiate men who do not want to have sex with their wives and those who do not enjoy sex.

Those who do not want to have sex with their wives have extra-marital affairs. These type of men do not have erectile dysfunction. The wives have pushed them out of the home. It is either the couple is sexually incompatible or the wife is becoming difficult.

4. Stress
Another reason is that they lose interest when they undergo a lot a stress. Stress comes in many forms; it could be financial stress, emotional stress, stress at work, bad economy, no money to pay children fees. These type of men, according to Dr Fadeyi, are called stress induced.

Unlike women who can fake an erection, it is either you have an erection or you do not have an erection, he says.

5. Masturbation
Some men self stimulate in a particular way and train themselves to trigger ejaculation and orgasm in that way only. For some women, this issue is a blessing to them while for others it is a frustrating and disappointing outcome. It is advisable that a partner knows her man’s erotic idiosyncrasies’ as some men take their sexual desires into their own hands by masturbating to porn videos, movies and so on.

6. Erectile dysfunction
Many men who have an erectile dysfunction that leads to loss of libido or total impotent avoid having sex with their partner because they have difficulties functioning sexually.

7. The woman is no longer attractive
When you are attracted to someone, your whole body switches on. Attraction is a symphony in which different instruments- the voice, charisma, and body language play a part it is like you get in the mood for love. A woman who was pretty when you marry her and suddenly by the time she starts giving birth, she became fat, obese then the husband can no longer take her out. A woman can have sex without enjoying it. If a man does not like the partner, he will not have an erection. In addition, if the wife suddenly becomes dirty, having body odour, sweat, the man will lost interest.

8. Health issues
Health issues like heart problems, hypertension, heart attack, kidney problem might reduce the urge for sex, says Dr Fadeyi.

9. Drugs
Anti-depressant drugs, pain relievers, anti-anxiety drugs and others can also lead to quick ejaculation and orgasm

10. Impairment
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